I asked within, how am I helping? What is going on inside of me that creating a monster out of a disagreement? As it often happens, the answer seemed to have been prepared for a long time just waiting to be invited to the table.
Category: Clarity
People don’t see us how we are. They see us how they are.
I was reminded of one of the hardest things I have to reconcile with: the fact that there are people in my life who believe I am an asshole. That my actions are meant to hurt them, that I never care and that my intentions are horrible.
Sometimes being on the sidelines means courage, respect and love.
There is nothing simple about being on the sidelines. When we see our loved ones struggling, there is a breaking in ourselves as well, but there is no true love without respect, without the trust that the person we cannot live without is able to navigate whatever the moment brings.
From ugly duckling in the land of Dracula to a beautiful swan in the land of Hans Christian Andersen
My wish for myself in the new year is to continue to discover my swan voice. To being firmly, over and over again, as many times as it takes. Because this is not an easy feat and growing up is a lifetime affair.
Not everything that shines (or that shines at some point) is gold
And sometimes it strikes me that words that were spoken around “the way we do things”, promises made in the relationship were just that, words. The signpost is always the way these encounters make me feel.
Here’s an interesting thought! What if I am ok the way that I am? Now that’s intriguing!
Based on the reactions of people around me, mostly men, I have always believed I am too much. I have always gone inside myself to criticize reactions I have, be them crying or laughing too hard, hugging someone I just met, telling something like it is, speaking too much or giving someone the look, the cold shoulder or the finger.
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