Category: Clarity

“You’re one to talk, you work in a multinational company and you have a really high salary! You are privileged!” I don’t know if it was my woman nature, my metastasized imposter syndrome or the surprise of the interaction that my first reaction to this was shame: “I do have such privilege!”

I have been offered the idea this week that I am going through an identity crisis. I panicked at first – Is this where I get botox, implants? A younger lover? Start wearing really shocking outfits? Oh, I am too old for this s..t . And then I remembered that what the gift of a crisis makes me is not pitiful but privileged

The one thing I took from this was that the secret to balance lies in the answer to this question: How can I be healthy, purposeful and connected today?

I was reminded about one idea that I lovehate. I was reminded that navigating the life’s constant paradoxical nature is what we must learn in order to survive and thrive and one of the most important lessons of the constant crisis our humanity seems to be in (and I am not referring necessarily to pandemics and wars – those are just overt ones) – if we choose to learn it, that is.

Any unrequited connection gives way to grief. Any open heart that is not welcomed in the same manner by another open heart will hurt for a while. But vulnerability is key to growth and so … we try, we fail and grieve and once we integrate our grief, we feel brave for trying and wiser for learning a lesson.

Many years ago, on a plane ride to somewhere (what great times … ), as I was reading Gary Chapman’s best seller The Five Languages