In the eye of the storm you hold on to what you can. You don’t make decisions or create strategies.

The lesson storms keep teaching me and the one I continuously forget is that the only thing I need to (and can) do in eye of the storm is to hold on. Breathe, connect to reality in any way that I can (as tornados uproot everything I thought was firmly grounded in my existence) and I wait it out. If I can, I remember impermanence: this too shall pass.

Inclusion on purpose* looks like honesty and feels like shared humanity. I am gay. If this comes as a surprise, here is what to say and, more importantly, what not to say to me.

It is from the comfort of my true self that I share with absolutely anyone that I am gay. This is me. Take it or leave it. I am not interested in being changed, I am not interested in your opinion if you are not ready to celebrate me and family. Not accept. Not tolerate. Celebrate. The verb was chosen on purpose.

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